By Tatiana von Tauber
Feminist Naomi Wolf asked a serious question in a recent CNN article: “Is pornography driving men crazy?” I had to read it twice just to make sure I was understanding her claim.
In a nutshell, Wolf suggests that porn rewires the brain and hence creates impulses that are uncontrollable while “desensitizing healthy young men to the erotic appeal of their own partners”. She brings up neuroscience, sex addictions, dopamine and a slew of other interesting ideas best left for a good laugh.
Between the Republican dingbats Michele Bachmann and Sarah Palin claiming capability of leadership and sex scared feminists still finding new ways to bash pornography I’m thankful I left the American South. I had a wonderful 4th celebration with my American friend here in Germany today and thought about my American roots but it’s just very nice to eat at the local currywurst stand and see this while I laugh with my daughter about the rough and horny part:
Or walk with my kids for dinner and pass this on the pedestrian zone:
But hey, at least we’re thrown a little measure for safety further down the street unlike in hypocrite states:
I can’t get this freely in the states. Why? Why must sex be so difficult in the U.S?
I worry for American women. Feminists lead a fear campaign with respect to pornography and conservatives lead a quiet, grassroots fight to abolish abortion. It’s a battle every day. Neither truly focus on the positives of condom use or pornography as a tool for better sex lives because they’re so uncomfortable with sex, nudity and tits. Apparently women have come a long way but I feel like in some ways we’re going backwards. A woman’s view may be valid for “feminist” judgment but my concern as a woman isn’t whether pornography comes across my man’s hands. It’s whether he treats me and his family right. His porn is a separate world that doesn’t include me and I wonder if this is part of the mainstream feminist problem. Pornography means men fantasize about another woman. There’s a slew of insecurities in that and most women don’t accept themselves enough to deal with that added anxiety.
I’m amazed at all the men I know who bathe in porn but still manage to be sane – not necessarily always in the right with their views towards women but they’re definitely not crazy, uncontrollable or violent as a result of too much porn, nor are they ‘desensitized’… besides, I only translate that to mean asshole and women should know better than to hang out with those. I don’t believe in sex addiction either. It’s a cop out. In fact, “dysfunction”, “addiction” and “disorder” seem to be hot words for the fad of labeling what’s wrong with us as a society when what’s really wrong is that many just don’t want to take the time to see inside themselves or their partners. Sex with a woman is complicated. Men don’t always want that complication and porn fills that void well. Why is this so difficult for women to get?
Here’s my big question of the day: “If a husband is a “sex addict” with his wife, is he really a sex addict or a fucking hero?”
I just celebrated 8 years of marriage a few days ago and I married a hero. Not only do we let off fireworks regularly (conservative translation: we have great sex often), he’s a U.S. Army vet who almost died while serving our country. May freedom bless Americans. Fantasy is all we have that’s truly free and don’t ever let some feminist bitch try to claim that precious gift away by trying to convince you of stupidity. Porn is good. Only bad character can make pornography bad.
Now, I suggest you read the scientific reasons as to why Wolf is wrong, an excellent post by Mind Hack blog.
